I would like to take a moment to be serious. Having children is hard, only having one was slightly easier with two now it can be pretty difficult. That being said, I had never really been sick with either child so it was easy to be hands on and feel like I was doing an okay job. Even when baby #2 came along and I was recovering from a c-section, I still felt like a pretty decent Mom.
The past month and half have been hard, I've felt like a failure over, and over again. Being physically limited is one thing, adding medication to control my pain to it is a whole other story. I have never felt so worthless in my life at times. Here I am there Mom I'm suppose to take care of them always, and I couldn't. I'm very grateful to have an amazing husband who is also an amazing Father. I think I have been harder on myself about this than need be. Point being, and a point I'd like to share "We can't always be super Mom." it's just not going to happen and you can't beat yourself up when you aren't at the top of your game.
Someone very wise told me "They're still young, they're not going to remember the few days you spent on the couch when they were 3 y/o and 8 months". So, take care of yourselves and don't be too hard on yourself when you're not able to do 100% of the things you want to do with them.
I promise not to feel guilty about the extra hour he got to spend on Leap Frog so I could lay down and get my pain under control. Besides, he learned the word Kaleidoscope! He also dresses himself without help now. It hasn't been the worse experience ever, just a really tough one.
Tomorrow we're going to learn how not to Urkel, it's cute every once in awhile, just not all the time. He seems to really like this look.
The past month and half have been hard, I've felt like a failure over, and over again. Being physically limited is one thing, adding medication to control my pain to it is a whole other story. I have never felt so worthless in my life at times. Here I am there Mom I'm suppose to take care of them always, and I couldn't. I'm very grateful to have an amazing husband who is also an amazing Father. I think I have been harder on myself about this than need be. Point being, and a point I'd like to share "We can't always be super Mom." it's just not going to happen and you can't beat yourself up when you aren't at the top of your game.
Someone very wise told me "They're still young, they're not going to remember the few days you spent on the couch when they were 3 y/o and 8 months". So, take care of yourselves and don't be too hard on yourself when you're not able to do 100% of the things you want to do with them.
I promise not to feel guilty about the extra hour he got to spend on Leap Frog so I could lay down and get my pain under control. Besides, he learned the word Kaleidoscope! He also dresses himself without help now. It hasn't been the worse experience ever, just a really tough one.
Tomorrow we're going to learn how not to Urkel, it's cute every once in awhile, just not all the time. He seems to really like this look.
You are such a good mom, and I know I struggle with the same martyr type guilt you do. We are doing good, we have happy, smart, beautiful children... lets celebrate that and forget the bumps (or mountains) in the road <3
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P.s. move to Tx now.
Dear Teezy,
ReplyDeleteYou are wise indeed and I adore you. However, moving to TX is unacceptable. I feel it would be in the best interests of everyone involved if you ALL moved to Ohio. Or at least CLOSER to Ohio.
Love so much,
Karen
Dearest Pea,
Everything Teezy said, minus move to TX. You know how I feel about you as a mother- you are AMAZING. Your children want for nothing. Don't ever compare yourself to any other mother, because those mothers don't have your incredible boys.
I love you more than words!
Carrot